An Aesthete's Journal: Bullying

Bullying is something which is around us all the time, but we don't acknowledge it. It has been given different terms for different phases in a person's life in school it's 'Bullying' in college/University it's Ragging, in later life it's what we call the social issues like racism, criticism, etc. But most of us can't bring to think that it's all the same thing at the end which we don't properly understand. Bullying is discriminating someone and making them feel bad about their personality, gender identity, sexuality, religion, caste, preferences, and just literally anything. Bullies make us feel bad about being our true selves.

They can make you too self-conscious and up to the level that you start hating who you are. When I was younger I was bullied for being an academic nerd. The problem was that the bullies didn't know what they were doing is bullying and I didn't know I was being bullied. People liked me because I was good at academics since any problem they had was solved by me immediately since I have always liked to help(people may consider this a foolish thing but it's my nature) but they hated that too, I don't know maybe because of they saw that as a skill they hadn't acquired. But I couldn't change that because I have always inclined towards books, even when I was a kid, I was not liking it on purpose. It was a tough deal but as I grew up, I gradually learnt to ignore it. Not all people are able to overcome this, because it's not easy to ignore people you can't help but see everyday.

We need to normalize the fact that bullying can happen to anyone, anytime and that we should seek help when needed. It doesn't make you come of as a scared freak, it makes you brave that you are accepting the fact that something wrong is happening to you, and you are strong enough to take a step against it. Try to seek help, tell people, surely one will be willing to help you and others who don't won't care enough to tell others since they aren't interested in it anyways so it won't matter. Trust me that will be the best thing you will do for yourself. With the coming of social media this issue has increased but has also come into light. Cyber-bullying is bullying but rather using online means. Social Media was created to connect and bring light to issues hidden under the bed for the fear of hate, it was not made to spread hate, to rather stop it. Nothing is bad as long as the purpose it is used for is and we are the only one who can can make it happen. People don't try to stop this as perhaps they are scared to come of as a scared person or think maybe the bully is right, maybe people won't accept them. They don't want help because they are so used to receiving hate for being someone that they try to change things that can't be changed. This is for you to know that everyone is bullied at least once for even the smallest things their favourite colour.

Stereotypes are created not because of the fact that someone is illiterate, they are created since someone wasn't able to understand that somethings can be beyond the scope of their understanding or liking and these stereotypes can make you the bully even when you don't know it so we need to stop making stereotypes. We need to stop things which are letting you become the person you hate and it all starts from accepting yourself and others and trying to understand that this planet currently has 7.9 billion people on it and we don't even know 25% of them so there will obviously be people who are different than whom you see and that shouldn't change the fact that all of us are unique but same. You need to preserve qualities of yourself which are unique, because they are the things which make you, you. You standing up for yourself will never be wrong for something like this. You need to gather the strength to be who you are, because diamonds are rocks too but they won't become special until they are put through so much of pressure and are courageous enough to survive it. You have this one life where if you change your personality or hide it because of the unbearable fear that someone else won't like it, is shameful because you are this amazing spectrum of these beautiful qualities knit into this piece of cloth which one day a Goddess will be gifted with and she will love it, and surely she wouldn't want to throw it away then why are you? See things from a different perspective and everything will be understandable. Helping for the right will never be wrong.